Rules for Relationships

We must just face the facts men and women are just different. There was a book that was titled Men are from Mars and women are from Venus. I like to say that women are like Alexander the Great and men are like snakes.

What I mean by that is women will try and conquer as much Real Estate as they can. Whether it be the closet or the bedroom, or just the way you dress.

When you get married you have a full side of the closet and she has a full side of the closet. But after a couple of months your side of the closet gets smaller and smaller. Before you know it you just have a small space in the closet if you are lucky.

Sometimes she moves a lot of your things to a hall closet or maybe even the garage. Then she spreads all of her stuff all over the room, and if you place one book or a sheet of paper on the dresser she reprimands you like a child.

If you tell her that she has things stretched all around the room she will remind you that she is using all of those things. And sometimes she will use her trump card and say I am using those things for the kids.

Your one item is making the room a messy. But she pays no attention to the complete chaos that she as going on in the room. She asks you questions like “are you going to wear that”.

Then you say what do you mean, is something wrong with my outfit. Then she gets all passive aggressive and says “I’m just saying I would not wear that if I were you”. But here is the kicker “but I’m not going to tell you what to wear”.

Well you just did in your own passive aggressive way. Just say she was wearing an outfit that you did not like, and you said “Why don’t you wear another outfit that I like better”.

She would respond with “I wish you would learn to be more supportive and more sensitive to me”. She goes on to say that “you should know that a woman does not want to hear those types of comments”.

What! Did you not just do the same thing to me? And before you know it you are apologizing for being insensitive, and when she insults you. You apologize for not listening to her opinions.

Before you know it about 10 years into the marriage your friends and family don’t even recognize you. If the truth be told you don’t even recognize yourself. She as become mama and you have become the kid.

Some men even refer to there wives as mama. They say things like I’m going to need to ask mama, or “if mama isn’t happy, ain’t nobody happy”.

She wants you to act like a man but she is treating you like a child. The men are more like snakes because sometimes they will just bite you because; well they are just being a snake. Men can be getting everything at home sometimes, and still they will just slither into someone else’s back yard.

A snake does not even need to be hungry in order to bite you. You can have a pet snake that you are treating well and the snake will still bite you. A snake does not care if is neighbor’s backyard looks better than his he just wants to get into his neighbors yard to be greedy.

Men will do everything in order to win a woman but are just too stupid to work to keep her. When she got a new outfit and you were dating you would let her know how much you liked that outfit.

Now she can go from a brunette to a redhead and you will not even notice the change. Snakes never stop to spell the flowers because; well they are just too busy being snakes.

They are not like regular pets. A cat will rub up against you to show there love, and a dog will wag there tails when you arrive home in order to let you know that they are happy to see you.

But not a snake even after you feed them they still don’t look content. They just look like they are waiting for the opportunity to sink there teeth into you.I would like to give couples the 101 in relationships.

Women give the man some space and a little respect. Let him make a decision with out you trying to manipulate his decisions. Just allow him to be a MAN and he will treat you more like a lady.

Men give your women lots of compliments because this is what a women desires. Drink water from your own cistern and not from another’s fountain and she will love and respect you more.


By:
The Source

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Saturday, July 10, 2010

Control in a Relationship

Can there ever really be happiness in a relationship when one party dominates and dictates most of the family’s affairs. Personally I don’t believe that both parties will be truly happy. The aggressor will make it seem like they have the family’s best interest at hand. Then the pacifist will play the victim roll most of the relationship. If the man is the dominate force he will make the women fill as if she is incapable of taking care of any type of business dealings. He really has low self esteem and probably was pushed around in school by a bully. The problem could also be that he is not as smart as his other siblings and makes up for it with a controlling attitude. He micro manages everything because he does not truly have control anywhere but home. He probably did not get enough hugs from mommy so he wants to make sure that no women will ever dominate him again. On the other hand if the women is the dominate force in the relationship she will talk down to the man when ever she speaks to him. When ever he has an opinion she says things like that is the most ridiculous thing that I have ever heard. Even when he has a brilliant idea she belittles his ideas because she did not come up with it first. If he tells her about something he heard on the news she says things like “you can’t believe everything that you hear” or “when are you going to start thinking for yourself”. Her problem is that she was one of the last girls who were invited to the Prom or someone stood her up for the Prom. It also could be that daddy did not show her enough love so she really hates men. She blames all her short comings on the man that she is with or the men that she has been with.
If he is going to be cured of his low self esteem and controlling attitude the first thing he needs do is to get over the past. It is water under the bridge so just turn the page for the love of God. Move on and just face your demons, stick a fork in the situation. That was yesterday today is a new day. If the passive woman thinks that he will just change on is on, you are dreaming honey wake up and smell the coffee. There is always that possibility that he will change on his on, but the possibility is slim to none. You will need to stand up to the bully that has controlled you for years. Just say to the bully hell no I’m not going to take it any more. Say to him we are partners in this relationship and this is democracy not a dictatorship. I refuse to give you your way anymore so we are going to discuss all of our decision making in the future. Now both parties have some weak and some strong points. This is why both parties’ strengths should be used through out the duration of the relationship. Men if the women tries to belittle you or talk down to you should say to her, that you are never going to get your way just as long as you act like a spoil 7th grader. If she tries to withhold sex from you just pretend to be an oak, and act as if you are not moved. Say to her I am like a tree plated by the water and I should not be moved. Tell her when she starts to act like she is an adult we can restart the relationship.

By:
The Source
http://www.askmeanything.biz

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